How to cope with herpes talk rejection

To keep it simple, there are 2 basic paths for a relationship (rarely is it ever cut and dry, but bare with me):

1. "I need someone to make me whole." Sound familiar? (Welcome to the antiquated ideal of co-dependent relationship and marriage!)
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2. "I don't need a relationship to determine my okayness. And I want to be in relationship." This feels more healthy, as in two whole individuals coming together in relationship. (And be aware of this going overboard if you do disclose and are rejected. There can be a tendency to lash out in some subtle or not-so-subtle ways to make the other person the bad guy instead of accepting their decision and tending to your protective heart.)