Herpes can actually be a good thing when it comes to enhancing intimacy. Intimacy needs trust, openness and connection in order to deepen.
Having herpes slows the sex side of the equation down ... and makes intimacy that much more real. That way, when sex does happen, it is fueled by a deeper, richer connection.
Because after all, if you don't want to feel a deeper connection with the person you're about to have sex with, you might as well be masturbating. (Right?)