Going through the healing process is less an intellectual pursuit and more allowing ourselves to feel whatever is here in a safe space. When we allow emotion to happen, it moves (e-motion = energy in motion). We can use our mind to help reframe our "problems" so that we can feel them fully and from that place of acceptance of what is, authentically choose to shift our experience of it. To put a metaphor to it, it's allowing the problems in our lives to be the manure from which our flower blossoms.