When do I have the herpes talk

"When do I disclose? Ask yourself, do I trust this other person with my vulnerability?"

Shame around sexuality often leads us to be hesitant to disclose in a new relationship. Disclosing isn't admitting something horrible. This is an important conversation that is close to your heart. Ask yourself if you feel safe in this other person's presence. If you're nervous, that's fine, that can be a beautifully connecting thing. You can keep the conversation simple, and regardless of the other person's response success here is not — did they accept or reject me?  Success is, did I have this conversation from a place of self love and self care? This conversation isn't a hurdle, it's a conversation that's a doorway into deeper intimacy.