Changing your unhelpful thought patterns

"You look at what went wrong, and you say — needs work."

Whatever judgements about yourself that you may have aren't universally experienced by everyone else. To see the things that have gone wrong in your life, you look at each one and say, simply: "Needs work." Without emotion, you notice old patterns as data points.  Almost with a smile on your face, you can change your relationship to your problems and see that they're pointing you towards places of healing and (ironically) are the places in you in need of the most love and acceptance. But when triggers and old patterns come up, we don't often give ourselves the love we need to heal those wounds. The resisting against those patterns and the self judgement just makes those patterns hang on that much more. So relax and release ...